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Sex Offenders-How To Protect Your Child
A 58-year-old man accused of molesting an 11-year-old girl
and masturbating in front of her and her friends while watching pornography
told investigators he was teaching the girls about sex, Mesa police said. James
Wimbush was a 14-year resident of an apartment complex in Mesa, AZ. On Aug. 2,
an 11-year-old girl who lived in the same complex told her mother that Wimbush
had shown her pornographic videos on two separate occasions, according to
police. Her 11-year-old friend was also present during one of the viewings,
police said.
These child sexual molestation incidents could have been
prevented, if people only knew what to do. There are seven compelling and
powerful parent approved and child tested techniques to thwart would-be sex
offenders.
The best way to protect children is through the power of
education. It is paramount to teach your children how to protect themselves,
whether it is online, on a playground, the mall or at home. How can children
protect themselves?
Accept the fact that sex offenders are average and ordinary.
The unbelievable truth: Sex offenders conduct themselves as
average and ordinary to the world. He or she may be a leader in the church; the
community; or business. Sex offenders seldom fit a classic stereotypeeducation,
socioeconomic status, career or culture.
Accept the definition of sexual child abuse.
The new definition of sexual child abuse relies less on the
blood bond between the victim and the perpetrator and more on the experience of
the child. Incest is both sexual abuse and an abuse of power. It is violence
that does not require force. Another is using the victim, treating them in a
way that they do not want or in a way that is not appropriate by a person with
whom a different relationship is required. It is abuse because it does not take
into consideration the needs or wishes of the child; rather, it meets the needs
of the other person at the child's expense.
If the experience has sexual meaning for another person, in
lieu of a nurturing purpose for the benefit of the child, it is abuse. If it is
unwanted or inappropriate for her age or the relationship, it is abuse. Incest
[sexual abuse] can occur through words, sounds, or even exposure of the child
to sights or acts that are sexual but do not involve her. If she is forced to
see what she does not want to see, for instance, by an exhibitionist, it is
abuse. If a child is forced into an experience that is sexual in content or
overtone that is abuse. As long as the child is induced into sexual activity
with someone who is in a position of greater power, whether that power is
derived through the perpetrator's age, size, status, or relationship, the act
is abusive. A child who cannot refuse, or who believes she or he cannot refuse,
is a child who has been violated." -E. Sue Blume, Secret Survivors
Know the signs your child is or could be targeted
Self-protection offers a direct and effective method for
children to protect themselves. Who, other than the child, is in a better
position to protect him/herself? Sex offenders say they can sense a child to
victimize. They can tell by the child's demeanor, body language, and facial
expression. They sense the fear, the helplessness, the passivity. They chose a
child who is easily intimidated or controlled so hopefully the child won't
tell. Secrecy is paramount for the perpetrator.
Trust your suspicions
Several people in this apartment complex stated James
Wimbush seemed a little odd. Appropriate suspicion or a sixth sense is key to
thwarting would-be sex offenders. The majority of people dismiss their
suspicions as being an over reaction, ironically, this is seldom the case. And
furthermore, it is better to be safe than sorry.
** I am not the
author of this article. I misplaced the source. As soon as I can locate it, I
will credit
